We had a church meeting a while back and we decided to do a last-minute potluck for lunch. A friend brought a beautiful huge, gourmet, work-of-art salad that she had made and we all kind of made our light-hearted comments about how what we brought looked compared to look what she brought. I felt awful when she had enough and pleaded: “please don’t give me grief about it. It’s just my thing. It’s what I love to do.” She was feeling the need to ask forgiveness for her talent, her hobby, her thing.
A pit came to my stomach because I’ve felt that before. That feeling when some people come over (and maybe I took the time to clean up?) and start looking around and making comments about “how do you have TIME for this?” or “I guess I would rather buy new than take time to paint old things” or my favorite: “I’m never letting you come over to my house -- you would die.”
And all of a sudden I feel guilt and the need to apologize for something I love to do and if they could only know how flawed I really feel in so many other aspects of life.
Oh, but I do it too. I didn’t do a huge back to school dinner with a theme and gifts and new outfits and so I make fun the ridiculousness of putting so much effort into it--who has time for that? A friend just finished another marathon and I’m struggling to get back up to 2 miles-- why is she so into her body? Or the fun mom that is always out on an adventure with her kids -- is her energy for real? She’s got to be taking something.
We tell our daughters not to play dumb, be yourself and shine on, be kind, and don’t worry about what others think. We still need to give each other that talk.
So I’m giving it today: Do your thing. Don’t apologize for it. Bless others with your talents. Own it.
And let others do their thing - not only do it - but excel at it. I want to be in the camp that applauds, lifts, encourages, restores, give the benefit of the doubt. To your face, behind your back, and behind a computer screen. And when the green envy, jealousy, and guilt start rearing -- simply say:
that’s her thing.
I love to see people
love what they are doing.
A little thought for a Monday morning --
thanks for listening.